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FAMILY STRESS REDUCING TECHNIQUES
A family, like a society, just seems to function much better when there are some established rules. This is to by no means suggest that a family should be run in a Draconian fashion, just that by the setting of some livable rules, we are more likely to have a harmonious lifestyle, both within the family and when interacting with others. Nothing drastic: just a bit of acceptable behavior, not governed by some medieval code, but the realization that there are certain behaviors that are acceptable in a civilized society and certain that are not.
Children seem to live and progress better when they know what the parameters (rules) are. Constantly shifting limits don't seem to work for anyone--parents or children.
Rules are most effective when we live by what we preach. How can you convince a child that telling a lie is wrong when they see you do it all the time?
The effectiveness of family rules seems to increase when there is discussion behind them and when everyone understands the "why" behind the words.
Setting some limits and living by and enforcing them simplifies family life. Nothing is more difficult for a child to understand why a certain behavior was acceptable yesterday and wrong today.
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